The positive impact of even one adult in a teens world can be life changing.
In video 6 of 8, Amy talks about our need for connection and the importance for teens to have at least one person in their life who sees and “gets” them. Amy calls these people anchors.
I know all parents want to be anchors in their children’s lives, but teenagers also need other people to recognize them and to help them to see their strengths.
How an anchor changed a life
I have a friend named Travis Allison. Travis lives in Canada and for many years was a Camp Director, and now works as a consultant helping summer camps succeed.
Travis tells a story about when he was a boy at camp. He says he was not the best athlete or the most popular kid and I’m sure he often doubted himself as we all do.
Travis said, one day at camp his counselor, who he really admired, called him over to speak with him for a minute. The counselor said a few words to him that would change his life forever.
He said, “Travis you would make a great camp counselor one day.” Travis was stunned. He did not see that potential in himself at all.
This counselor went on to tell Travis that he was a lot like him when he was his age and he mentioned some of the qualities he saw in him that would make him a great counselor. He saw what the analyst Robert Johnson calls “the gold” in Travis.
That one sentence set the course for Travis’s professional and even personal life. I hope every teenager can find those kind of great anchors in their lives and I also hope that I can be that anchor for more campers.
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Thoughts about anchors?
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