When Your Teen Comes Out Before the Holidays: How to Navigate Family Conversations with Love and Grace

The holidays can bring a mix of joy, nostalgia, and sometimes, a little tension. For parents whose teen has recently shared an LGBTQ+ identity, this time of year can add an extra layer of complexity. You may be excited to celebrate together, but also wondering how to handle conversations with sensitivity and care.

At Odyssey Teen Camp, we work with teens every summer who are exploring who they are and how they want to show up in the world. We’re not mental health experts, but we do understand how deeply these moments matter, and how much it helps when adults lead with compassion, communication, and calm.

To help families approach the holidays with confidence, we asked Lauren Muriello, LPC, founder of Well Being Therapy Center, for her advice on navigating these important conversations.

1. Prep with your teen ahead of time

Before the festivities begin, take a few minutes to check in privately. Talk through possible scenarios, and give your teen space to express how they’re feeling.

Lauren suggests starting with simple questions like:

“What do you want to say if anyone asks whether you have a girlfriend or boyfriend?”

“If someone makes you uncomfortable, feel free to take a break or head to your room. I’ll have your back.”

This conversation not only helps your teen feel supported, it also shows them that you’re on their team, no matter what comes up.

2. Plan your own responses in advance

Even the most well-meaning relatives can say awkward things. Decide beforehand how you’d like to handle them, so you’re not caught off guard in the moment.

You might say something like,

“Let’s keep the focus off of [teen’s name] for now. Tell me more about that recent fishing trip.”

Redirecting gently keeps the tone light while protecting your teen’s comfort.

3. Lead with love and set the tone

If a question or comment needs to be addressed directly, it helps to do so with warmth and confidence. Lauren offers a great example:

“That’s right! [teen’s name] is identifying as female now, and we love and support her. Now please pass the gravy.”

You don’t have to overexplain or apologize. A simple, positive statement can set the tone for everyone in the room.

At Odyssey Teen Camp, we know how meaningful it is for teens to feel safe and accepted for who they are. Each summer, our staff creates space for these kinds of conversations with empathy, understanding, and respect for every individual’s journey. Through our blogs, parent seminars, and camper reunions, we’re proud to continue offering that same sense of support year-round.

The holidays are about connection, family, and love. Wherever you’re celebrating this season, we hope your home feels full of acceptance, laughter, and joy.

From all of us at Odyssey Teen Camp—happy holidays!